It is customary to want to find the faults in the midst of a difficult situation or of a calamity. Difficult, and often rare, is to take the responsibility to move on, acquiring an attitude of humbleness and reverence before God, when faced with these situations.
If at this moment you did a memory exercise, you remember the father who left home, perhaps the mother you never had or that was absent; the difficulties you went through in your childhood because of a health problem or lack of family support; of the husband who left you during the most difficult time of your life; of the children, that now raised, don’t respect or don’t give news of their whereabouts, etc.
We all, in one way or another, would have who or what to “blame” for what we have become and for the choices that we were “forced” to make … But could it be that it would be worth something, besides holding us back and limiting our future?!
The Bible tells us about a man, Job, who went through many trials, but that didn’t use his “pain” as an excuse to “shoot to all sides,” he didn’t blame the “sabeans” (enemies); the fire that fell from heaven, the great wind that made his house collapse, let alone God … At no time did Job sought a “scapegoat” to justify what happened.
” In all this, Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing.”
The “scapegoat” was used, in ancient times, to make the expiation (fulfillment of a sentence which redeems) for human sins, but from the moment that the Lord Jesus did it, in favor of us, the perfect sacrifice, the free access to God’s presence also makes us responsible for our own choices. It’s us, now, that must sacrifice to keep ourselves “clean,” that is, righteous before God.
I’ve heard people say, “God does not bless me the way I want, then I’ll no longer go to Church” or “My son does not convert and I am suffering. My fight is not helping me at all…”
You are fighting for yourself first! Never forget that. Only those who value their own salvation have the ability to save. Be wise and humble, for many, wanting to find “scapegoats”, got lost and today not even themselves, much less their family, experience the joy of salvation.
As hard as your situation is, think that this will be part of your testimony of victory, in addition of course, to giving you the privilege to mature and grow as a person. Isn’t this better than losing time finding whom to blame?!
“… A man reaps what he sows.” (Gl. 6: 7)